tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4011180133672171801.post6227778648894867271..comments2022-12-10T02:34:01.429-08:00Comments on Fusion Fantasy by Bets Davies: "Let's Talk About Sex, Baby"Bets Davieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01470190008122531460noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4011180133672171801.post-56696887005668058632011-06-22T11:13:54.108-07:002011-06-22T11:13:54.108-07:00"That and it pisses me off that in my writing..."That and it pisses me off that in my writing I can show someone getting their head blown off amidst shattering, bloody, wiggling goo, but if I show a blow job everyone freaks!"<br /><br />I agree. It's a squicky double standard if you think about it. I know that I've expressed concerns about explicit sex--but not because I think it's bad in and of itself, but because I want to see the book published. But it's a messed up world where I can see a guy get his head blown off on regular television but you can't even see a naked person's genitalia. <br /><br />I do think it is important that sex contribute to the book, specifically the character development. I've read a number of books that I swear just threw in sex because it's, well, sexy. Except a lot of times it wasn't even that--it was just gratuitous. But if sex comes about because of important character development--then yeah, we shouldn't shy away from just because it's, well, sex.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4011180133672171801.post-77380948813063913022011-06-21T14:47:05.586-07:002011-06-21T14:47:05.586-07:00It sounds like we're in the same world, then.
...It sounds like we're in the same world, then.<br /><br />I grew up in a homophobic environment, so the idea of accepting (or even really talking about) the sexual lives of others seemed wrong somehow. I'd read about sex in plenty of books (always straight!), so I had a good idea what went on, but it was a very limited perspective. It wasn't until I read Mercedes Lackey's "Magic's Pawn" series that I was exposed to the idea that same sex love could be normal. I was still slightly bothered by it--I was only 15 or so--but I cared so much about Vanyel that I was able to enjoy his happiness more than I was bothered by his sexuality. Once I recognized that--that I was celebrating his very human love for another man--all sorts of walls fell down for me. <br /><br />I've gotten into some hot water with my family in recent years when I finally came out as a straight ally--some of them are intensely homophobic. I agree with totally about the importance of writing about sex and about being honest about a character's sexuality. Unlike you, though, I grew up in an environment that did not applaud those ideas.Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17965637730234169527noreply@blogger.com